blarhh.
on 18th may 08 a friend of mine (i dont rmb who) was distressed over his/her results and grumbled to me. and i got very angry with his/her parents after he/her told me his/her story. so i decided to blog abt it, and in the end, it ended up as a draft in my blog (tgt with many other drafts). and here it is, since i dont rmb who i typed it for. so theres no harm posting it :)
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18th may 08
parents very often see their children as little kids who are unable to disern right from wrong. many times they are right, but alot of times, too, we are not as 不懂事as they think we are. take for example.
if a child is trying very hard to study and get good results so that they wont be a disgrace to their parents, however, they still end up with results that are not up to standard, should the parents encourage them or start nagging at them ?
a typical nagging :
why do u still get such lousy results ? have you even put in effort in your studies ?! all the tuitions all the extra lessons all the money its all wasted ! please.. why your friends can do so much better, but you ! show me this kind of results ! im so dissapointed in you.
the fact is, they do not know that their child did put in alot of effort.
why not put yourself into your child's shoe, trying your best to improve, meet their parent's expectations. but after trying your best, all these efforts are not being appreciated, how would you feel? not good at all. if i am the child who got the scolding, i would rather give up all the hope and totally give up studying.
however, im lucky to have understanding parents :)
moreover, are our lives goal is just to get good results ? parents are making us feel as if results are everything. but infact it is not.
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wow? i dont even rmb typing this ._.
oh yes. happy birthday yeeteng :D
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18th may 08
parents very often see their children as little kids who are unable to disern right from wrong. many times they are right, but alot of times, too, we are not as 不懂事as they think we are. take for example.
if a child is trying very hard to study and get good results so that they wont be a disgrace to their parents, however, they still end up with results that are not up to standard, should the parents encourage them or start nagging at them ?
a typical nagging :
why do u still get such lousy results ? have you even put in effort in your studies ?! all the tuitions all the extra lessons all the money its all wasted ! please.. why your friends can do so much better, but you ! show me this kind of results ! im so dissapointed in you.
the fact is, they do not know that their child did put in alot of effort.
why not put yourself into your child's shoe, trying your best to improve, meet their parent's expectations. but after trying your best, all these efforts are not being appreciated, how would you feel? not good at all. if i am the child who got the scolding, i would rather give up all the hope and totally give up studying.
however, im lucky to have understanding parents :)
moreover, are our lives goal is just to get good results ? parents are making us feel as if results are everything. but infact it is not.
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wow? i dont even rmb typing this ._.
oh yes. happy birthday yeeteng :D
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